Bonus: the one thing she doesn’t do? Yell at Clarke and blame her for any of this shit happening.
In fact, what she does is meet her with understanding instead and tells Clarke that she appreciates her intentions and re-affirms her goodness as a person. All while drawing a definitive boundary between them and asking Clarke like an adult to respect her and that line.
The thing I miss the most about their relationship is that they talked shit out like adults. Clarke needs more understanding and fewer people acting like children around her, instead of Clarke being the only adult in the room all the damn time.